Here are tips 4 to 6 from Shakti Durga’s 12 Top Tips
Here is the second instalment of Shakti Durga’s suggestions on how to make divorce more bearable, helping to cultivate a new and different relationship moving forward.
4. Respect Differences: there are a thousand ways to spice a casserole and a thousand ways to raise children. Our kids chose us both, and so we need to find a way to honour the different methods and philosophies that emerge after divorce. Speak well of your ex, particularly in front of the kids.
5. Reward every try: If your ex does something nice, don’t judge it against the long list of things they have not done, instead be grateful, say thank you and thus reward the effort they made to be helpful or pleasant. This is an amazing way to bring out the best in people.
6. Have good manners and speak in a normal voice, not a voice of judgement, criticism or condemnation. Behave towards your ex and their family as people you cherish and care about.
Tips 7 to 9 continued next week.
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